The Joy of Bantering: A Feminine Art of Playfulness and Decentering
I really didn't think a day would have come, when I would say that I have fallen in love with bantering. Before you raise your eye brows, allow me to explain. Growing up I was taught - especially with men Don't be friendly Don't smile too much Be serious! Or else?? You'll be seen as easy. A fool. A walk over They'll play with you! So I lived my life like that. I was serious. Very serious. Not just with men... With people overall. I quietly carried this belief that if I appeared warm, people would mistake my kindness for weakness. So I made sure they never got the chance. I kept saying, "Nobody will mess with me." But the older I've gotten, I've realised while it is a good thing in some cases.... That approach protected me in some ways. Boundaries and discernment is necessary. Not everyone deserves access to me. It will eventually create a wall to prevent good people from coming in. My wake up call started when I began my journey of releasing my sc...
